Rescuing Wayward Children from Extreme Distances
Aug 13th, 2008 by larrybarkdull
Our children swim in a sea of sin. It is simply impossible to avoid its washing over them. The tidal wave of iniquity that we parents experienced in our day has become a tsunami for our children. And there are casualties.
Why else would Mormon (who was writing only for our benefit) choose to spend so much time on the rebellion and conversion stories of Alma the younger and the sons of Mosiah? Why else would he carefully glean from Nephite history the heartbreaking account of the disbelieving children, who succeeded their righteous pioneer forefathers? Why else would God inspire the compilers of the Bible to include the conversion story of the young, vile and sinful Paul, who, upon repenting, became one of the greatest apostles and missionaries in history? Is there not a last-days’ parallel in these accounts?
Nothing shall be impossible with God
Clearly, we live in the prophesied generation whose decadences and perversions rival those of Enoch and Noah’s. But we must not collapse under the crush of latter-day realities. In every situation, the Lord prepares a way of escape. Nevertheless, when our children slip off the path of safety and appear to be spiraling into a free-fall, we often panic and underestimate the far-reaching effects of the Atonement. Reminding us that “nothing shall be impossible” with God and nothing shall be impossible for us when we place our trust in God, the Lord inspired prophets to fill the scriptures with purposely-placed, extreme accounts of redemption that are often beyond the boundaries of our comprehension. Consider these examples:
The examples of Alma and the sons of Mosiah
Alma the younger, who categorized the seriousness of his sins with near murder, “became a very wicked and an idolatrous man…a man of many words, and did speak much flattery to the people…he led many of the people to do after the manner of his iniquities.” Apparently he and the sons of Mosiah established a type of secret combination to “destroy the church” and “to lead astray the people of the Lord, contrary to the commandments of God, or even the king.” They “rebelled against God” and stole away “the hearts of the people, causing much dissension among the people; giving a chance for the enemy of God to exercise his power over them.”
Few of our wayward children will sink lower than did Alma, and yet within two days of his coming face-to-face with the truth, he repented and testified that he had been “born of God,” snatched–grasped or seized hastily-from certain “everlasting burning” and “eternal torment.” Likewise, the sons of Mosiah, Alma’s companions in rebellion, who were described as “the very vilest of sinners,” repented and were promised eternal life. Again, few of our children will fall this low, and yet God found a way to rescue them and make them “instruments in his hands.”
The example of Lamoni
When Lamoni, a king so wicked that he murdered his servants merely for falling short in performing their duty, was presented with the truth, he embraced it so thoroughly that his strength failed him and he “fell to the earth as if he were dead.” Remaining in this condition for two days and two nights, he was “under the power of God…” and “the dark veil of unbelief was being cast away from his mind….” Moreover, “the light which did light up his mind, which was the light of the glory of God, which was a marvelous light of his goodness–yea, this light had infused such joy into his soul, the cloud of darkness having been dispelled, and that the light of everlasting life was lit up in his soul [had] overcome his natural frame, and he was carried away in God.”
When Lamoni awakened, he bore this testimony: “I have seen my Redeemer.” Again, few of our children will achieve the gross wickedness of Lamoni, but nevertheless, the Lord was able to “snatch” him from an incalculable distance and draw him back.
The example of Lamoni’s father
Lamoni’s father, the preeminent Lamanite king, also a documented murderer, experienced a mighty change of heart when he, too, was presented with the truth. Now realizing that no quantity of possessions or continued indulgence in sin could replace the loss of his soul, he cried out to Aaron:
What shall I do that I may have this eternal life of which thou hast spoken? Yea, what shall I do that I may be born of God, having this wicked spirit rooted out of my breast, and receive his Spirit, that I may be filled with joy, that I may not be cast off at the last day? Behold, said he, I will give up all that I possess, yea, I will forsake my kingdom, that I may receive this great joy.”
Then praying mightily to God, “I will give away all my sins to know thee, and that I may be raised from the dead, and be saved at the last day.” Upon his cry for deliverance, the Spirit overcame him and “he was struck as if he were dead,” and when Aaron had raised him up, the old king became the missionary to his people, “ministering unto them.”
The unspoken lesson is repeated once again: few of our children will sink lower than the father of Lamoni, and yet the Lord had the power and the desire to rescue him.
They never did fall away
Upon Lamoni’s father’s conversion, religious liberty was proclaimed throughout the land, and tens of thousands of Lamanites abandoned their sins, which had been perpetuated by the wicked traditions of their fathers. The strength of their conversion carries a comforting promise to latter-day parents: once these sinners were reclaimed by the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ and had become “converted unto the Lord,” they “never did fall away.”
Mormon describes them with this language: “For they became a righteous people; they did lay down the weapons of their rebellion, that they did not fight against God any more, neither against any of their brethren.” To distinguish themselves as people of God, they assumed the name Anti-Nephi-Lehi, “and the curse of God did no more follow them.”
They had been “the most lost of all mankind” and had committed “many murders,” and yet once they were presented with the truth and embraced it with all their hearts, they exclaimed, “The great God has had mercy on us, and made these things known unto us that we might not perish; yea, and he has made these things known unto us beforehand, because he loveth our souls as well as he loveth our children…Oh, how merciful is our God!”
Even the worst sinners can be “snatched”
Imagine, no more sin by false tradition; no more sin by choice; no more curse; no more weapons of rebellion; no more distance from God. Even the “most lost of all mankind,” who had committed “many murders,” can be “snatched” by the power of Jesus Christ from “everlasting burning and eternal torment.”
Other scriptural accounts could be cited, but these examples should signal the universality of the Savior’s redemptive power and message. Again, few of our children will approach the abysmal level of sin that these people achieved, and yet the Lord had the desire and power to reach and rescue them…in an instant! With some degree of confidence, then, we might speculate that Mormon did not choose these stories randomly; rather, he likely chose them to demonstrate that even the vilest of sinners can be “snatched” and redeemed at a moment’s notice.
Two powerful lessons
Mormon’s tight grouping of these stories, which comprise chapters 27 and 28 of Mosiah and chapters 17 through 23 of Alma, seem to indicate that Mormon was trying to drive home at least two redemptive messages:
1. Excluding the sons of perdition and those who have had the full light then shed innocent blood, no one, absolutely no one, is beyond the redemptive reach of the Savior.
2. At some time, every son and daughter of God will be presented with the full truth and given a clear choice.
Universal experiences
Clearly, the conversion experiences of Alma, the sons of Mosiah, Lamoni and his father, and the Anti-Nephi-Lehies are to be understood as universal experiences. Heavenly Father, who is both just and merciful, would not condemn his children with an immutable, eternal judgment without first laying out the truth and extending to them a choice. For beyond the issue of our sins, which by repentance can be covered by the Atonement, we will be judged by the desires of our hearts.
We are assured that the Savior will accomplish this miracle of redemption in his own time, and if there is one thing that he has lots of, it is time-all of this life, including life in the Spirit World, up until the moment of resurrection. Therefore, time is on his side. He is always on time, despite our occasional accusation that he is late. He has promised that he will not “delay his coming.” Rather, he will employ all the resources of heaven to reclaim and redeem his wayward children.
Joseph Smith’s perspective
The Prophet Joseph Smith took a long view on the redemptive process. He said, “There is never a time when the spirit is too old to approach God. All are within the reach of pardoning mercy.”
And then to give us hope, he taught: “Our Heavenly Father is more liberal in His views, and boundless in his mercies and blessings, than we are ready to believe or receive.”
Because we cannot imagine redemption now does not mean that it is not on the way. And when redemption comes-and it will come-it will be as marvelous as the Redeemer, whose commission this is.
Sunday will come
We must cling to that hope, and we have every reason to expect that our hope is not in vain. Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin spoke of the Friday of Jesus crucifixion as the darkest day in history. The mighty Jesus apparently had been defeated by his enemies, and the confused, devastated apostles could only watch helplessly.
But Friday’s darkness could not endure. On Sunday, the glorious Savior burst the bands of death, and the brightest day in history dawned.
All of us will have our Fridays, Elder Wirthlin said. Those days will seem as though our world has shattered and we will never be able to pick up the pieces. The he testified, “Sunday will come. In the darkness of our sorrow, Sunday will come. No matter our desperation, no matter our grief, Sunday will come. In this life or the next, Sunday will come.”
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See Mosiah 27-28
Joseph Fielding McConkie and Robert L. Millet, Doctrinal Commentary on the Book of Mormon, 4 vols., 1:, p.257: “Murder is thus a sin unto death,” wrote Elder Bruce R. McConkie, “at least concerning members of the Church, to whom this revelation [D&C 42], which is entitled ‘the law of the Church,’ was addressed. We do know that there are murders committed by Gentiles for which they at least can repent, be baptized, and receive a remission of their sins. (See 3 Nephi 30:1-2.)” (A New Witness for the Articles of Faith, p. 231.)
Joseph Fielding Smith, Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p. 191
Joseph Fielding Smith, Teachings of the Prophet Joseph Smith, p. 257
See Joseph B. Wirthlin, “Sunday Will Come,” Ensign, November 2006
Thank you for your article. It gives hope and makes sense when you consider the relationship between then and now. I have a 37 yr old dgtr. Who suffers ‘greatly’ from depression/ bi-polar they say (I dont really believe it). She has a 14 yr old son and a 3 yr old dgtr. (three children died at/before birth due to birth defects in between) She has been dealing with this severe depression and suicide attempts for the last 8 years. Somehow, one day, she was with someone who used ‘crack’ cocaine and decided in her state to try it. It was her downfall, her husband nailed the door shut (literally), filed for divorce, went to the judge and had her banned from the house, she can only see the children at our house with our supervision. The whole process has driven her deeper down, she can see no sunrise, no change, no forgiveness. She only wants to die. I keep telling her there is hope . The articles that Meridian prints from authors like yourself and others certainly hit the mark. They are uplifting to me at least and I am sure in the back of her mind she could see a change but she feels so overwhelmed by guilt and hopelessness she continues to punish herself. thank you again.
But what about the 50 percent who are inactive in the Church? For whatever reason they CHOOSE to remain outside the gospel net. There seems to be some in the church that think, “Don’t worry. The Lord will give them lots more chances in the spirit world to repent and come back.” This is true. The Lord loves all his children active and inactive. They will receive many more chances to turn around right up until the final judgement. But what about the scripture that says ‘we will go out of this world into the world of spirits with the same attitudes, desires, level of activity or inactivity that we were at in this life’. So what does this mean? If the inactives are approached many times in this life to come back and they refuse, doesn’t this imply that when they are given many chances in the spirit world they will also refuse? How do we know here on earth which ones will have an Alma the Younger conversion story and which ones won’t? Your article implies that ALL will be given a dramatic 2 day conversion experience in the spirit world. If this is so, then why are the active church members beating themselves to death now, instead of relaxing a bit and waiting until the next life to clean up a few dirty laundry items? How do I reconcile these two approaches? Who is right? What is to be done? I really want to know. Can anyone answer this correctly? I end with the scripture, ‘NOW is the time for men to repent for when the darkness comes there can be no more repentance’
I am 26 years old and I was diagnosed with major depression when first tried to commit suicide at age 19. Over the next 1 1/2 years I tried about 3 more times to kill myself. My mother was at a loss at what to do. I spent at least 2/3 of that time hospitalized. The doctors decided to give me shock treatments because I did not respond to any of the medications I had been given. After 27 treatments over 6 months, with no effect, I finally made the doctore stop giving them to me. I found another psychiatrist who took me off of all 15 of the psychotropic medications that the previous psychiatrist had me on. For the first time in a very long time I could think cleary. My new doctor began trying me on new medication and we eventually we found a combination that controlled my depression.
I had some memory problems from the shock treatments. At age 24, I had the memory of a 40 year old. However I was able to get my Bachelors degree in Nursing in Dec 2004 (and graduate validvictorian).
I wish I could say that my life went great from here, but it did not. After graduation, before taking my first job, I was out with my best friend where some people were doing cocaine. They offered us some, and I did it without hesitation. Back in my sophmore days of college, I played with ecstacy and marijuana, but that had been 6 years ago. I was suprised how little thought I put into doing drugs again. Doing cocaine was different. I was addicted from the beginning. My life was changed forever. That night I met who was to become the most important person in my life for the next year and a half…my drug dealer. To make a long story short, I ended up using about $300 a day of cocaine, getting fired from my nursing job and losing my nursing job. I went to rehab then moved to a halfway house in FL. Here, a roommate introduced me to Crack cocaine. I was kicked out of the halfway house, became homeless, and did whatever I had to do get money for drugs.
Finally, I had enough. I had been up for 7 days straight. I was out of money, strength, and hope. I went to a detox and from there was able to get into a free long-term rehab for women. At this time I have been drug-free for a little over 6 months. This would not have been possible if it had not been for my belief in God. I grew up in the church, although I have not been in a while. The foundation of AA and NA is build on the principle of a “Higher Power.” For me I did not stuggle with this because I know that God exists.
As far as my depression, I still have struggles with this. I see therapist weekly, which has been an enormous help. My mom is also very supportive. The most important thing you can do for someone with depression is to listen to them. Do not judge what they say. Try to get them to do simple things with you. And most importantly, just love them unconditionally.
Thank you for your thoughts on this very difficult subject. I have watched three of my children “Choose the Right” and four of my children “Leave the Right.” It tears me and my husband apart to see these four beautiful Children of God make such decisions that lead them away from the truth. We are always condemning ourselves for not being parents that could inspire and uplift our children to look to the gospel and the Church for their life choices. It is easy to say to ourselves that we did our best, but when you know or feel that you didn’t, the guilt really takes over.
Again, thank you for your message of encouragement.